HIGH Esteem vs LOW Esteem
Self-esteem is intricately connected to how we feel. Our self-esteem is based on how much we value ourselves. Addiction can be wound together with our self-esteem issues on both sides of the coin.
People who have a solid sense of positive self-esteem tend to be more successful in their lives. Getting and maintain a balanced sense of self-esteem can be difficult but it’s important to your recovery process.
Low self-esteem tends to lead people to feeling worthless, sad and often making poor choices in their lives, from entering into relationships for the wrong reasons to turning to substance abuse to make themselves feel better.
On the other end of things someone can have too much self-esteem these people tend to fall into the narcissistic category. Overconfidence can be as bad as none at all, and can lead to all sorts of difficulties in life, including pushing away the people in your life.
So what are some of the signs of a poor or low self-esteem?
Someone with low self-esteem tends to constantly need attention from the people around them to boost their confidence. They will be very needy, and very negative about themselves. Often even though the people in their life will tell them that they are very worthwhile they won’t believe it. They don’t think they are someone who can be loved.
Relationships with someone who has low self-esteem are generally problematic. People who suffer with low self-esteem seem to have trust issues and can often become suspicious of the other person. It is also difficult for them to set boundaries in the relationship.
Someone dealing with self-esteem issues can’t handle criticism, even when it is meant in positive manner. They always take things in the worst possible manner, because that is how they feel about it themselves. They are hypersensitive and worry about everything that everyone thinks about them.
Making choices is difficult for someone who deals with low self-esteem. Making decision takes confidence and when you don’t have confidence you tend to over question the choices you make. As much as it is difficult for them to make those choices they also have the goal of being perfect. Perfectionism is often an unobtainable goal, leading to a frustrating cycle of disappointment.
Now that you understand some of the side-effects of low self-esteem it’s important to understand the other side of the coin. Let’s take a look at what healthy self-esteem looks like.
People who have a positive self-esteem have clear goals in their lives. They know what they want from the world around them and are constantly making strives to achieve those goals.
They have the ability to make clear choices based on logic and reasoning. They are self-aware of their abilities and use them to their advantage.
When you have positive self-esteem you will find that you have the determination to work for what they want. Rather than feeling that the world is out to get them when something goes wrong they see it as an opportunity to learn and move on.
Relationships when you have the right level of confidence and a positive self-esteem are healthy, they are balanced. There is no need to try to make someone feel bad about themselves, rather they try to make them happy instead.
Self-esteem can be altered, and everyone goes through periods of doubt about themselves. These times of doubt don’t have to last forever you can learn to be confidant again, and that confidence will help you overcome your addiction